double happiness

last night, i watched a film called "double happiness" written and directed by mina shum. (how appropriate, as wedneday was the chinese new year) the film is about a 22year old canadian-chinese girl jade, (played by sandra oh) who is aspiring to be an actress. it deals with the relationship between her and her parent's. and the pressure from parent's to do something better than acting. it also deals with jade, dealing with dating a white guy and knowing parent's disaproval, trying to grapple with respecting the parent's wishes of marrying someone chinese.
this film made me think of my own background as a canadian-japanese. even though my parent's don't care, whether i marry someone who is non-japanese. i struggle with this issue at times. do i marry someone who is japanese, because i like japanese food and my parent's are both japanese. i grapple because i'd like to marry someone who could understand the culture. i struggle to find someone right now, and maybe one of the reason i would like to go to japan, is that there i might meet someone. of course being japanese is not the only important factor. but, then i have to tell myself do i see myself living the rest of my life with tis person.